The Emotion Map

Sapphire: by the way ... i am very sad

Think Engage: for what

Sapphire: please don scorn at me ... but its just that my ex girlfriend just got married and i saw her photos so that made be feel very sad

Think Engage: you have like...

and fever and all is it

pls...

Sapphire: no no ... please ... fever is for getting drenched

this i just saw last night ...

Think Engage: hmm

Sapphire: but i realise that i made some wrong investments and wrong decision very early in life

Think Engage: what wrong investment

Sapphire: emotionally .. i am saying

Think Engage: ah ..

Sapphire: you know what ... i was trying to analyse what exactly makes you feel sad

it is sometimes very interesting to see exactly which strand of thought makes you feel bad ... it is like finding out which thread in a multithreaded java program is hogging the max memory

are you getting it?

Think Engage: hmm yeah

go on

Sapphire: like in this case, the very thought that now i do not have any importance in a person's life who, at one point in time, considered me to the most important ... this strand of thought makes me feel sad ...

Think Engage: will you feel better if you were considered important in someone elses' life?

Sapphire: no its not a compensating equation

Think Engage: no - i asked to isolate the root cause

it may be a 'need' to be loved, or it may be a need to be loved by a particular person

Sapphire: i understand ,,, thats why i am trying to give you a model based answer

ok ... what i think is this ... lets talk in terms of models

then ...

every person you interact with ... gives rise to a certain set of feelings ... emotions

now ... lets broadly categorise emotions as positive and negative

to make things simpler

then ... one negative emotion cannot be negated by positive emotions generated in another relation

whatever is generated ... remains

but ... at amy given point in time ...

Think Engage: yes - but you must also ackowledge that over a period of time, the intensity of effect it has does decrease

Sapphire: we say that we are doing good, not doing good, or maybe doing OK ... based on the wholistic map of all your emotions taken together

is this clear?

Think Engage: yeah

Sapphire: right ... and our mind is like a torch ... which hovers over the map ... whenever whichever emotion is hoghlighted, we momentarily get into that emotion

does this model sound 'sound'?

that i think takes care of the time factor also

doesnt it?

Think Engage: yeah

Sapphire: and intensity ... does not decrease ... it is just that the older emotions gets pushed towards the edge of the map ... while new ones generate at the center

so chances of them getting highlighted get lesser ... but when they ARE highlighted ... then you get into the old mode

Think Engage: hmm

Sapphire: the hopeful part is ... our mind ... the torch ... always hovers

Think Engage: so the question really is how can the torch focus for a longer period on what we want, and how soon can we push things to the edge

Sapphire: yes absolutely

you got it

Think Engage: and hash (or whatever it is called) is certainly not a solution to it

Sapphire: do you think this model is scalable to other areas of emotional intelligence?

forget that part

this is serious talk

do you think this is a scalable model?

Think Engage: it will be more complex when there are overlaps

Sapphire: what overlaps?

like?

Think Engage: you still have to deal with related people

Sapphire: yes but thats external to the system ... there will be interfaces defined ... but i am talking only about the core processing

Think Engage: hmm

Sapphire: what hmm ... i think we should develop this model to see whether it covers all areas of emotional intelligence ... then it may be possible to develop measures to fix things when they go wrong

Think Engage: how would you fix this thing for instance?

Sapphire: dont you think this can be a worthwhile introspection?

just like the way you said, then the solution is to push the older emotion faster towards the edge

what???

Think Engage: yes - i'm thinking HOW

Sapphire: yes ... thats the application part ...

and that will be different for different people ... so more important is to develop the principle behind it

Think Engage: isn't this already addressed in psychology?

Sapphire: i dont know ... i am sure this is a pretty intuitive model ... so somebody might have thought about it

btw ... i am going to put this on blog too

Think Engage: i think this is what they do in 'therapy'

yeah - put

you are btw not adding naything to itchybrains - i will now kick you for that

Sapphire: but that apart ... let us develop the model further ... iyou want

if you*